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Lisa Benson

Where Have I Been All My Life?: How I Finally Grew Up After A Life of Putting Up, Giving Up and Shutting Up


2023 NYC BBA Distinguished Favorite

Lisa grew up as a "good girl", always striving to be perfect. She was a star student and had big plans for her life. But by her mid-thirties, she had settled for mediocrity. She was in a safe and unfulfilling job and in a toxic relationship with a controlling man. One day, Lisa had a shocking wake-up call. She realized that she had been living a lie. She had been putting up with things that she didn't want to do, giving up on her dreams, and shutting up about her true feelings. Lisa decided to take action. She began to explore her childhood conditioning, intergenerational trauma, and limiting beliefs. She realized that she had been conditioned to be a "good girl" and to put the needs of others before her own. She had also been traumatized by her family's history of abuse and neglect. As Lisa released her fear and pain, she began to reclaim her power. She started to speak up for herself and to pursue her dreams. She left her toxic relationship and found a job that she loved. She also began to heal her relationship with her family. Lisa's story is a reminder that it is never too late to change your life. If you are feeling stuck, it is important to reach out for help. There are many resources available to help you heal from trauma and to reclaim your power. In Lisa's case, she found healing through therapy, journaling, and self-care. She also found support from a community of women who were also on the journey to healing. If you are ready to start your own journey to healing, here are some resources that can help: Therapy: A therapist can help you to understand your trauma and to develop coping mechanisms. Journaling: Journaling can be a helpful way to process your thoughts and feelings. Self-care: Self-care activities, such as yoga, meditation, and spending time in nature, can help you to relax and to feel better. Support groups: Support groups can provide you with a safe space to connect with others who understand what you are going through. Remember, you are not alone. There are many people who have been through what you are going through and who can help you to heal.
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Publication Year:

KMD Books



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Self-help: General

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